Creating Reality: Which part will you choose?
When you try to change your life, do you ever feel a pull to go back to the familiar, even when you aren’t happy with it?
Many people have an awful time with this, and the more they try to change, the more that pull back to inertia happens.
The thing is, these are just neural pathways. They have been ingrained in your mind over many years. But you can also think of this as your reality. This familiar place you dwell in is the reality you’ve chosen.
One fun way to break these patterns and take a leap into a new reality is to look at your life like a play or a movie.
The thing that’s really fun about the play called your life is that you don’t even have to audition. At any particular point in time, you can simply declare that you’re going to play a new part. You can shift the storyline, and you always win the audition. I mean, even if you were up against Meryl Streep, you would still win the part. And the best part is, Meryl would be happy for you! Because all of the players in this play understand that there are plenty of parts to go around, and that everyone gets to play the part of their dreams. In fact, if they choose a part and don’t like it, they can snap their fingers and play a different part, too! Cool, huh?
Sometimes you might watch them choose a part and you wonder why they would have chosen it. But you understand that it’s their life and they have the power to choose, and the power to change their role and their script, just like you do, so you let them go about their day in their own play.
Let’s say your finances are a total mess. You’ve played the role of the financial screw-up for a long time. At some point, if you are going to change your life, you will have to take the actions of a financially secure person.
Now let’s say you take the crucial step of meeting with a financial planner. On your way to the appointment, you feel discomfort coming up. You’re going to have to reveal to a virtual stranger all of your weaknesses.
Now, listen up! In that moment, you have a choice: you could wallow in how difficult this meeting is for you, and how embarrassing, continuing to play the part of the “lesser than” financial person, or you could choose a different part with different lines, like, “Wow, you are so savvy with money. Look at this important step you’re taking! Doesn’t it feel great?”
The energy associated with these two polarities feels SO different! One is a feeling of shame, and the other a feeling of being powerful and proud of yourself.
If you have difficulty imagining the script for your new role, you could simply ask yourself, “What would so-and-so do?” Someone you admire — either someone you know personally, or perhaps a famous person you admire who is playing the part you really want.I really want you to get this — to have this click. Your life is just a play. If you don’t like the part you’ve chosen, choose a different part, and play it every day.
Don’t worry — you’re still you. Since it’s your play, you get to inject your own personal signature into the role and tweak the script at will. You can change the entire storyline in a matter of seconds.
What role will you choose?
Why not play the part of the person for whom everything comes easily?
The person who attracts kindness and generosity (I’ve been playing that part for years … it’s a good one!).
The person who has healthy relationships?
The luckiest person in the world?
The person who goes through life with a calm confidence and deep trust that everything they want will fall into place with ease?
The person who is great with money?
The brilliantly creative person?
The person to whom really good partners flock in droves — regardless of whether or not you’re perfect?
There ARE people who live those realities every single day, right? Of course. You probably know some of them personally. Or you’ve at least read about them.
This week, pick a new role. Make it whatever you want. And as you go through your day, really play the part. Talk the way you would if that was your life. Talk about your future in these new terms. Imagine you have a different past — perhaps a healthy family environment or a perfect history with managing money. You always treated everyone with kindness — never made a mistake. All those times you “blew it” — completely wiped out in favor of a new script. Choose the thoughts of that role. Imagine what that person’s self-talk must be, and choose that instead of your usual “beat myself up” chatter.
The key to changing your part in the play is to be present enough to choose something new. If you catch yourself slipping into your old part, just change the script! You are producer, director and actor in the play called your life. Have fun with it!
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Beth A. Grant is a success coach, writer, editor, singer/songwriter and journalist helping people live their best lives.
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This is a fantastic post. Thanks so much I feel motivated by this!
I like this! It made me straighten up in my chair & a smile came across my face. Thank you for this… mmm, who will I be today?
Hello Elizabeth,
Creating Reality: What part will you choose?
This is a very good article to get you to break free from old realities that are not effective and are holding you back from you God given purpose.
Elizabeth has painted a picture of how to Create a New Reality, a simplified approach that you can’t go wrong, but so forward thinking, you got to say she is an awesome writer who knows how to get her point across.
Personally, I like feeling empowered, energized and good about my decisions, so I would choose to write my own script for my role in the movie and use my thought and imagination and step out on faith to set a new reality.
Thank you for writing an inspiring and wholesome article that will help some people change their lives for the better.
Love, Peace and Joy,
May God Bless!
Marie Raphael
Thanks that was a good post
Love it!!!
I love this part: “imagine you have a different past — perhaps a healthy family environment or a perfect history with managing money…” This really does change self-talk, and thus it changes what you choose to say to acquaintances. After all, they don’t know my history and I can be anyone!
Love it!!!!
I now have a new wall poster up on my office wall, a new note on my joy book, my ideas book and on my business diary to remind me.
“It’s your Movie”
Aaaah such a simply reminder.
Brilliant and right on time!
Hi really enjoyed this…it’s very clear. I have signed up for your next call. Your doing my dream! maybe you could send me your script!!Mary
A great article for sure about the importance of acting out a role, like the very successful financial advisor as an example. Then rehearse the part just like an actor, until you get it perfectly, until you feel it in your bones.
Thanks for your words.
Nick Grimshawe
This is a real breakthrough message for me. I am on it right now.
Great post! I love how you pointed out getting pulled back into your old habits are just neural pathways that we can change by writing a new story–the one we want! I am in the process of creating a new role for myself regarding money. I am now someone who is good with money, loves talking to my financial adviser and enjoys adding to the prosperity of others as I pay my bills!
Brilliant work as always