My Story

My mission in life is “to entertain people and inspire them to live their dreams.” Kind of catchy for a life purpose, don’t you think? Over the past few years, I’ve established myself as one of the most effective coaches in North America. I do a specific kind of coaching, though — it’s not typical at all and it’s a really cool way to make a living.

Essentially, I help you live your dream. Not by motivating you at a pricey weekend where you go home all geared up to change the world and then a few months later are curled up in the fetal position, wondering what happened to your dream.

My expertise is in helping you take your dream, and through applying quantum techniques and integrating the practical systems and resources you need, make it a reality with as little effort as possible.

This is a very passionate pursuit for me, and I’ll tell you why.

Up until 2002, you could say I was pretty much miserable. It’s not that I didn’t have fun or have really great friends and a wonderful family, but it was the day-to-day stuff in life that I couldn’t bear.

I graduated from college and got a good job. But inside, something didn’t feel right.

For one thing, I didn’t find any purpose in what I was doing. I mean, if you’re going to spend a third of your day (plus commute time) doing something, call me crazy, but I think it should matter, you know?

And another thing: I had all these passions deep inside that kept calling to me. I wanted to travel the world, write a book, take a stab at songwriting, use my musical talent (I was a kick-ass singer but no one would have ever known).

I guess you could say I have always had pretty high expectations of life, and never really bought into the idea that life is just about going through the motions and then you die.

This feeling of wanting my life to be a reflection of who I really was kept building and building. I sought out solutions — I took a vocal performance class and bought a laptop so I could write in a coffee shop like I imagined would happen if I was a writer. I even wrote a few humor pieces and discovered I was pretty good at it.

But everyone kept telling me things like, “That’s great — but how are you going to make a living?” And, “Why would you even think of leaving such a good job? You have such great benefits!”

And I would think to myself, “What world are you people living in? This isn’t a dress rehearsal! There’s more to life than picking up a paycheck and living for the weekend and a vacation once a year!” But they would just look at me like I was positively crazy for wanting more out of life.

Yet, inside, it was killing me to live that way. Every day I suppressed that basic human need to self-express — to be me and to create the life I truly wanted.

This feeling built up and I kept band-aiding my life, seeking external solutions that would make it feel a little better for awhile. I would take a trip, change jobs, find a new boyfriend. But the feeling never went away.

I was lost — caught between the world I was in and the world of my dreams.

I realized one day I had literally talked myself into going to work every day for five years. I became terribly depressed — I was persistently fatigued and felt like I was in a constant mental fog. My mind stopped working right, and I cried. A LOT. Pretty much a greeting card commercial would set me off for hours on end. But I couldn’t find the courage to get past my internal blocks, and I didn’t have a clue about the external stuff either. How does a person actually get from “here” to “there”?

Pretty soon life made my decision for me, because I was in such a bad state, I wasn’t capable of doing my job anymore as a vice president/account executive. First I was demoted, then I was put on disability, which I found humiliating — but necessary. I was grateful that my company would essentially pay me for a few months while I tried to get better.

I was lost; caught between the world I was in and the world of my dreams.

To make what is turning out to be a very long story somewhat shorter, a few years went by where I was pretty messed up and definitely confused about whether my dream was even possible.

See, I hadn’t yet given myself permission to live the life I truly wanted. I knew I had a lot of things I wanted to do with my life (my “bucket list” was enormous!), but I didn’t really understand how to get from “here” to “there.”

I declared one day I was going to start a new career as a freelance writer — a dream I thought was feasible and would cover the practical end (unlike being a professional philosopher, for instance, another of my many passions). I ended up waitressing most of the next year and didn’t get a whole lot accomplished, but I did get to try on the life of a writer — the way I imagined it to be. Did you catch that? See … waiting tables to make a living was what I imagined life in the arts would consist of.

(This is really important to remember as you poke around the site and learn about the “Creating Reality” part of things. You might even want to jot it down.)

Let’s just wrap up that year by saying I fell flat on my face.

I went back to the corporate world, medicated and unhappy, but hey, now I had benefits, right?

Fast forward a few years, and I’m working at a TV station as Director of Marketing — definitely a step in the right direction. I got to write a little and experiment with writing scripts for video, which I discovered I excelled at.

But inside, I could feel that same feeling coming up, pretty much the, “This dream ain’t gonna launch itself” feeling.

Well, life helped me along once again, because I was called into the boss’s office one day and informed that my position had been eliminated.

And I thought, ‘This isn’t a dress rehearsal. I can’t bear the thought of waking up in 20 years and nothing’s changed.”

So there I was, 39 years old, with no job looking at a big fat fork in the road.

And you know what I did?

I launched my dream, finally, of becoming a freelance writer. Not a fall-on-my-face launch — I really did it. I’m telling you, nothing was going to stop me.

By then, I really believed I could do it. And it was so effortless. Within just a few months, I was working full time and a few months later, I was turning work away I was so busy.

What had happened was that I had gone into what some people call “the vortex.” This is a zone every human being has the ability to get into where you are so aligned with what you want, that it comes to you almost instantaneously with no effort (I didn’t say no action — there’s a difference).

You might be thinking 2002 was my turning point because I launched my dream that year. Actually, that came much later. 2002 was my turning point because I experienced a spiritual awakening that year. I had a shift in consciousness occur, which basically just meant I realized that I was completely missing the “now” of my life and sort of woke up.

It was as if I had been paddling upstream all of my life, and then in the course of a day, I turned the boat around and let go of the oars. My life began to take me where I wanted to go and I let it, rather than trying to navigate the rapids backwards with a pathetic little paddle.

So after people saw this huge shift in me — pretty unmistakable going from being in severe depression to being a truly happy person — they began asking me to mentor friends of theirs who were in the same situation.

I had gone into what some people call “the vortex.” This is a zone every human being has the ability to get into .. where life is no longer a struggle.

I discovered along the way that there was some science behind why my life had become so easy and some spiritual reasons behind why I had found a consistent blissful feeling. Actually, those are linked to some science, too — mainly that everything, I mean everything, is essentially energy, and you create your own reality in conjunction with the divine realm — whatever your version of that happens to be.

So remember when I said that stuff about imagining that’s what life as a writer would be? Well, all those beliefs about life that sit deep down inside of you are what’s driving your results. And when you launch your dream, unless you understand what’s really going on inside of you, it can be a very long struggle. On the other hand, if you get things straight on the inside, in conjunction with taking action the right way, you can be unstoppable!

If you ever wonder why one person is an overnight success and the next person barely eeks out a living, struggling year after year, that’s why. (Because aren’t people of equal ability and education generally taking the same action? Sure. So it has to be something else.)

Anyway, you’ve been so generous to read this far. To wrap up … after mentoring people for a few years, I decided helping others find this way of life where their dream can become a reality — to let go of the struggle — was so purposeful, I would do it for a living. Not that I’ve given up writing or music or any of the other things I love doing. No way! See … I used to imagine I had to choose, but now I realize life is whatever I decide it will be.

And there you have it.